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This is definitely a meta post, but it doesn't seem to break any of the sub rules, so I'm going to go for it and understand it might be removed.

Downvotes are designed to be used for comments that are off-topic, not for things you dislike or disagree with. Just comment and say why you disagree! Or if a comment is abusive or breaking rules, report it. It can be frustrating and confusing to read threads where Redditors disliked what an OP said and downvoted their comments until Reddit hid them all as off-topic. It makes it much harder to follow what an OP has said about their own topic, plus we end up with confused posters saying, "I don't know why I'm getting downvoted for answering a question?"

I just wanted to post because I see this happen very frequently in this sub, and I genuinely think a lot of people don't actually realize that Reddit's system is set up to use downvotes as a way to screen for off-topic comments/posts to hide.

Have a great day, Weddit!

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I was supposed to get married earlier in the year, but we ended up pushing our date back to early December of this year. I am sitting here less than 100 days out and I have a feeling in the pit of my stomach that this is a huge mistake.

My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years. I’ve never had butterflies with him and I never felt that “over the top I’m in love with this man” emotion and I’m just now realizing that I don’t think I love him as much as I say I do. We barely talk and most of the time it’s just me saying “I love you” because there’s nothing else I want to talk to him about. I’ve talked to him before about having doubts and he doesn’t have any, and since then he’s been very over the top nice as if he’s making up for something. Deep down I know if he were to leave me tomorrow I wouldn’t be upset in the slightest.

To add to the list of red flags, his father had recently been hitting on me and putting me in awkward situations (showing me inappropriate pictures while making a snarky comment in a joking manner). I feel very uncomfortable and when I say anything to my fiancé he brushes it off and says he’s just joking around. But I feel so uncomfortable and he knows it.

Another red flag is that at the beginning of our relationship, he said he wanted children which is a huge thing to me. Now however he tells everyone he doesn’t want kids. I finally had a breakdown and he responded with “I can give you a kid if that’s what you really want but I don’t want it” and I felt so off put.

I’ve been having panic attacks thinking about this and when I bring it up to my mom or any of my relatives they brush it off as me getting cold feet. I am 69 days away from our wedding and I want to cry. There is part of me that feels this is a comfortable life and I can just muddle along and make everyone around me happy. Sometimes I start to believe them I’m just having cold feet. But the other half of me is screaming that I’m lying to him and myself and I should get out. Has anyone ever felt this way before your wedding? Thank y’all

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