how do you deal with toxic parents?
i have been dealing with my mom who i suspect bipolar disorder or bordline perosnality disorder . she is often at times with the family even the extended one. it has cause an emotional toll on me , and make me fearful of marriage given the fact i witness the abuses she does to my dad like nagging on bed when my dad is very tired from work.
i have thought of the typical resolution like family service centre , she refuse to go. seeking medical treatment for her she refuse to go. even went to seek a new religion and chanted for her to heal. sometimes although we try to live our best living to our best version, there would be team mate on your boat sabotaging the progress and u cant do anything.
i cant move out now as i am not married , not enough cash to buy private, finds rental market cashoutflow not prudent and wise because the cashoutflow can be used for mortage payment which can lead to ownership in tue end.
i know end of the day despite the advice prayer the community give, we have to face our demons ourselves and other cant help much.
to sign off with a chinese quote i live by a combination teaching from confucious and lao tze ,反求诸己，自作自受，不怨天不忧人