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r/BadNeighbors
r/BadNeighbors
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Posted by4 months ago
67 comments
level 1

I agree with this boundaries-defense …. But not the shrubs. OP, well-meaning neighbors like them do not see social cues, as you already mentioned. And when we (those of us who DO see social cues) run into someone who doesn’t see social cues, we then are ‘forced’ out of our OWN comfort zone to meet them in their no-social-cue-landscape. You WILL have to step out of your comfort zone to address this issue. You can do that rudely (“would you just shut the fuck up!?!”) or you could do that politely (“I would rather sit here alone with our conversation and read my book”). Either way, they will be offended but that is not your issue. I suggest you start with wearing earbuds or headphones if you want to sit outside and put them in and use them as a physical cue. Maybe pop one out and answer his question, then put the earbud back in and keep reading. It will take some training (on BOTH your parts) but if you want peace, this is what you need to do.

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level 2
Op · 4 mo. ago

You WILL have to step out of your comfort zone to address this issue. You can do that rudely (“would you just shut the fuck up!?!”)

I did do this once hahaha. He was blasting music after one of my night shifts and I couldn't sleep. Fed up, I went outside, rolled down all of the windows in my car and blasted classical music as loud as I could.

I then went back inside. No, I couldn't sleep, but that was besides the point. I was already awake. This was mutually assured destruction.

About twenty minutes later I went back outside and shut my shit off. His music was off. I went back in to try and sleep.

His tunes started again.

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