I’m looking to see what peoples thoughts are in this situation. I’ve basically made my mind up about it but because of the type of person I am I would love to keep the peace between neighbours but would also like to tell them where to stick it.
We recently moved into a new neighbourhood in Victoria. The area has great views of the ocean, islands and mountains on a clear day.
The median age of the neighbourhood is mid 50’s, we are 36 with a 2 and 4 year old and a dog. There are more people on the street without kids and probably half of those people have chosen not to have kids rather than their children growing up and moving out. This is the case with our neighbours. I only mention this because most of the neighbours seem interested in chatting with us and our kids while our direct neighbours don’t. They don’t even like conversing with us, saying hi to us, wave back to us or even acknowledge that we exist 99% of the time, which is fine.
For the most part I am ok with this, if you don’t care to get to know us no big deal. However, the way the houses are set up in our area is a little odd and their yard boarders our drive way.
After moving in I made small talk trying to get to know them. She came off rather pretentious, he has said maybe 3 words to me in 7 months. It’s fine, don’t care to get to know them.
A few months after being in the house we are having some mould tests done (I found a bunch behind a wall), and the gentleman doing the test parked on the road in-front of their house. Within 5 minutes of this she was at our door asking us to ask him to move his vehicle because she didn’t want to look at it. She said our vehicles make it seem like they are enclosed by a metal wall and it impedes their view.
After this interaction my wife and I made sure to pull our vehicles as close to the garage as possible to help alleviate this feeling and hope that it helps calm the waters.
A few more months of being ignored my dog escaped from the house while we were out. She ended up going on their property and taking a crap on their lawn.
The back of our house is full of trees and they throw their chewed dog bones as well as some biodegradable food out back which my dog is attracted to, so naturally she would end up on their property.
The guy comes over and is extremely rude to our guest and basically threatens him to let us know that this can’t happen again. During the conversation he is yelling at our friend while walking down the driveway with his back to him, wouldn’t talk to him face to face. This infuriated me. I understand he is upset about the poop, but the dog belongs to me not our friend.
A month goes by. Yesterday the lady asks to speak with me. She asks me if we would be able to park our “offensive” vehicles (SUV and a pick up) on the street or our lower driveway so they could have a better view. Tells me they can’t enjoy their yard anymore because they look at our vehicles and that neighbours need to help each other out. She tells me that they now close their blinds in their living room because they can’t stand to look at our vehicles. Meanwhile he is outside most days in his boxers playing with his dog and she walks around in a housecoat.
Now I mentioned above that we do have a second driveway but our house is positioned on a hill. I am usually the one to pack up my kids in the morning and bring them home in the evening. She has requested that I park my large vehicle on the lower driveway and lug my kids up and down. We have a 5 foot retaining wall separating the driveway and the front yard that I would have to carry them up/down or walk around down the road.
Am I being unreasonable that I want to park on my driveway close to my front door? Should I be moving my vehicle every day for them? Should I park down below and lug my kids and groceries around? Are these two out to lunch?
I am curious to hear what you all think. ✌🏻🤦🏻♂️