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Posted by2 months ago

Crazy neighbours

I’m looking to see what peoples thoughts are in this situation. I’ve basically made my mind up about it but because of the type of person I am I would love to keep the peace between neighbours but would also like to tell them where to stick it.

We recently moved into a new neighbourhood in Victoria. The area has great views of the ocean, islands and mountains on a clear day.

The median age of the neighbourhood is mid 50’s, we are 36 with a 2 and 4 year old and a dog. There are more people on the street without kids and probably half of those people have chosen not to have kids rather than their children growing up and moving out. This is the case with our neighbours. I only mention this because most of the neighbours seem interested in chatting with us and our kids while our direct neighbours don’t. They don’t even like conversing with us, saying hi to us, wave back to us or even acknowledge that we exist 99% of the time, which is fine.

For the most part I am ok with this, if you don’t care to get to know us no big deal. However, the way the houses are set up in our area is a little odd and their yard boarders our drive way.

After moving in I made small talk trying to get to know them. She came off rather pretentious, he has said maybe 3 words to me in 7 months. It’s fine, don’t care to get to know them.

A few months after being in the house we are having some mould tests done (I found a bunch behind a wall), and the gentleman doing the test parked on the road in-front of their house. Within 5 minutes of this she was at our door asking us to ask him to move his vehicle because she didn’t want to look at it. She said our vehicles make it seem like they are enclosed by a metal wall and it impedes their view.

After this interaction my wife and I made sure to pull our vehicles as close to the garage as possible to help alleviate this feeling and hope that it helps calm the waters.

A few more months of being ignored my dog escaped from the house while we were out. She ended up going on their property and taking a crap on their lawn.

The back of our house is full of trees and they throw their chewed dog bones as well as some biodegradable food out back which my dog is attracted to, so naturally she would end up on their property.

The guy comes over and is extremely rude to our guest and basically threatens him to let us know that this can’t happen again. During the conversation he is yelling at our friend while walking down the driveway with his back to him, wouldn’t talk to him face to face. This infuriated me. I understand he is upset about the poop, but the dog belongs to me not our friend.

A month goes by. Yesterday the lady asks to speak with me. She asks me if we would be able to park our “offensive” vehicles (SUV and a pick up) on the street or our lower driveway so they could have a better view. Tells me they can’t enjoy their yard anymore because they look at our vehicles and that neighbours need to help each other out. She tells me that they now close their blinds in their living room because they can’t stand to look at our vehicles. Meanwhile he is outside most days in his boxers playing with his dog and she walks around in a housecoat.

Now I mentioned above that we do have a second driveway but our house is positioned on a hill. I am usually the one to pack up my kids in the morning and bring them home in the evening. She has requested that I park my large vehicle on the lower driveway and lug my kids up and down. We have a 5 foot retaining wall separating the driveway and the front yard that I would have to carry them up/down or walk around down the road.

Am I being unreasonable that I want to park on my driveway close to my front door? Should I be moving my vehicle every day for them? Should I park down below and lug my kids and groceries around? Are these two out to lunch?

I am curious to hear what you all think. ✌🏻🤦🏻‍♂️

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level 1

Don't do that. Keep your spine. They are just being difficult. You do what is best and easiest for you. Maybe you can get a much taller fence so that they can't see your vehicles. Im petty af. I would get a very tall metal fence. Just ignore them.

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Op · 2 mo. ago

I’ve toyed with the idea of a fence, which I know would piss them off. Guess I’ll wait and see how they react to me not giving in to their requests.

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Surely they have other windows they can look out to enjoy the view. Its your house, I would park where it makes sense to you. It sounds like they are just trying to bully you. I would accommodate them if they were kinder to you and if the request is reasonable, but they sound like neither.

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Op · 2 mo. ago

Exactly my thoughts. If they made an effort in the past when I was trying to be neighbourly and didn’t act like we are an annoyance for moving into a house I may have entertained the idea.

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They sound completely nuts. Park wherever you want on your driveway.

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What did you say in response to their request?

I personally wouldn't accommodate these people. My only response would be, "Oh, that's too bad." Then walk away. Have you asked any of your other neighbors about these two? I'm sure they give everyone a hard time.

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Op · 2 mo. ago

I told them I wasn’t willing to park on the street or the lower driveway but would give it some thought knowing full well I’m not going to move.

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Fence. As tall as allowed and on the property line.

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I think you should continue to park on your property in a way that suits you. I can't imagine lugging kids up and down a hill. It is too bad that it impedes their view, but when they purchased the property surely they saw how close your driveway was? Do you have a garage you can pull into?

They are totally unreasonable to have an issue with a car parked on a public street and yelling at your guest.

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Op · 2 mo. ago

That’s what I have been saying to a few people. How could they purchase a house where their yard is on someone else’s driveway and not expect them to use it?

I do have a garage but am a carpenter and have it set up as a work shop. Actually she asked me to park in the garage saying “most people use their garage to park their vehicles in”. They have 2 garages, 2 cars, 1 sits in their driveway all the time. Hypocrites.

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These people are the neighbors from hell. It doesn't matter what you do, they will invent a reason to whine and complain.


If the way things are s that another person's yard borders another's driveway. Then that is true for them as it is for you. Same for others.

Start documenting everything. Take notes of when they bother you, how, and why. This is in case it ever gets legal.

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Park on your driveway. Keep your dog out of their yard. What they wear and do is none of your business. That logic makes you look like an asshole. Nobody needs to be your buddy. It’s an imposition and annoyance for people who want privacy. Get over it.

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Op · 2 mo. ago

Well put. What they doesn’t offend me, I was saying it more of a “tit for tat” situation.

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Tell them that if they want an uninterrupted view, they can pay for it. They can either buy a different house on a remote cliff with no neighbors and go live there, or they can put up a fence and paint it to look like the view they're so upset about missing, or they can start paying you $25,000/month to start entertaining their bullshit.

If they don't like those ideas, too bad. Whether you say this to them or just start straight up ignoring them from now on is up to you. But from now on, you don't open the door when they show up. Instruct all guests to do the same.

Get a doorbell camera so you can see when they come over. These cameras can record video for later playback, so they can leave a message without you needing to interact with them and you can decide if you feel like watching it or not.

If they walk up to you when you're outside and they start complaining, walk away. If they follow you, tell them they're trespassing and to get off your property immediately. They're not worth your time or mental energy (unless they start paying you $25,000/month -maybe it would be worth it then, lol).

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Op · 2 mo. ago

I like this. 👍🏻

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You park on your driveway where you want to. Their OCD is not your problem. Sheesh.

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If “keeping the peace” requires you to betray yourself, I am pretty sure that is not peace and I am pretty sure it is not worth keeping.

Perhaps it is time to try: “I am okay with your disappointment in me” Rachael Mary Stafford

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First it will be this then it will be something else. People like this are just never happy. Its your house and your drive. It's kinda tough if they don't like it, go look out of another window. Or better yet, get a hobby! I would definitely, as someone else said put up a tall fence.

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Sure I'll park somewhere else so as to not block your view, on the condition that you remove all the trees from your yard as they obstruct my view.

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Park exactly where you want to on YOUR property. You have been more than patient with their rude behavior. It sounds like no matter how nice you are and even if you'd park....I can't even finish this sentence. I can not believe they have the nerve to even ask you NOT to park in your own blanking driveway because they don't enjoy their view. Tough. Let them move.

Sorry you have them for neighbors. They sound horrible!

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Op · 2 mo. ago

Me too. It makes things awkward but maybe we can run them off the street. I’m curious to get the surrounding neighbours opinions of them.

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