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AITA for telling my nieces they’re not my responsibility and need to go back to their parents on vacation?

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· 2 mo. ago
Partassipant [1]

Instead of telling a 9 and 4 year old, tell their parents to parent.

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· 2 mo. ago

Why should OP have to go hunt down the parents and take up her time?

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· 2 mo. ago
Partassipant [1]

Something makes me believe that cabins on opposite sides is not an accident, but a very loud and clear message. Parents ignore that message.

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On a cruise there's a point at which all passengers are required to go to their muster area. That's the place they should go to board a life boat if needed.

OP said this was during the safety brief. At that particular time her nieces needed to be with their parents. Especially, considering their cabins were on the other side of the ship so they would not be assigned to the same muster station.

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NTA tell her you’re there for a holiday with your family, if she wants a child free one then pay for the on board childcare instead, I’d actively avoid a vacation with them in the future tbh, they’re luckily children didn’t end up injured or worse 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

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Op · 2 mo. ago

The onboard child care was free! My kids went once because I needed a break.

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· 2 mo. ago
Pooperintendant [51]

NTA but the conversation needs to be had with your sister and not 4 and 9 year old children. If she's letting them run amok then it's on her head if something happens to them. The kids are probably just happy to see their aunt and won't be aware of any dangers.

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· 2 mo. ago

Jesus children die on cruises when they aren’t watched 24/7 NTA what a terrible parent

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Hell...they die even WHEN watched 24/7 😬 Look at Salvatore Anello and his granddaughter...

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· 2 mo. ago
Partassipant [1]

My friend and I definitely roamed a cruise ship by ourselves when we were 8 and 9! Four is a little young though

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· 2 mo. ago
Partassipant [1]

Nta.....but you need to tell your sister face to face because telling a 9 yold and a 4 yold to tell their parents anything is not going to work.....it's your vacation tell her to watch her own kids.

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I’d also suggest speaking to the steward or guest lead contact and letting them know child A and child B are often seen roaming the ship without their parents and you are concerned. The ships crew can then speak with your sister and tell her to keep her kids with her. If she doesn’t then they can make plans to get her off the ship because she’s causing a safety issue and being neglectful.

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· 2 mo. ago
Partassipant [2]

NTA. Your sister sounds like a dangerous parent. Especially with the 4yo.

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· 2 mo. ago
Asshole Aficionado [17]

NTA. But your responsibility is to say something to the parents... Not little kids.

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· 2 mo. ago
Pooperintendant [52]

Indeed, it sounds like the poster is trying to avoid having a confrontation about this, even though a confrontation is sorely due not only because her nieces are being put in danger but because her sister is perhaps letting her kids lose with the intention that they will go to their and her uncle. Either way the mom is being irresponsible

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NTA - dumping your kids on someone else is not ok.

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· 2 mo. ago
Asshole Aficionado [10]

NTA, but this message should be made clear to the parents and not the kids. The kids might simply do as they're told.

Escalate in steps. Talk to the parents first, then again and if they don't understand it be firm and involve the children.

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NTA All these folks saying you should talk to parents. The parents obviously think it's ok for a 9yr old to watch 4 yr old. You say they have a habit of running off.
How do we know their parents didn't send them go play with your cousins. You telling niece to go be with their parents is perfectly ok..and if something did happen to them it would be parents fault not yours. Who arranged vacation? Who paid?

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If you want something communicated clearly, you tell the parents not the children. You can send the kids back and make it clear to their parents that you won't watch them or be responsible for them anymore.

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